It’s amazing the shit-storm that can develop between ex-boyfriends.
Two friends of mine broke up not too long ago, but still live together. I can certainly relate to the scenario — I lived with both of my ex-boyfriends after breaking up. On the one hand, it’s nice to have the company of someone you really care about, especially at a time when you’re really emotionally raw and your whole world has been turned upside down. On the other hand, that someone is WHY you’re emotionally raw, and is the person who turned your world upside in the first place.
A tricky situation.
You find yourself walking a delicate tightrope… You want to spend time together, to get back to being able to hang out without being all hurt and bitter. And in general, the more time you spend together, the more likely it is that you’ll be able to go back to being around each other comfortably. But in the mean time, you’re continuously risking a blow-up over the smallest things. You can’t keep acting like a couple by spending all your time together, but you can’t help but feel pushed aside when you start spending time apart. And when the tension boils over, it turns into World World III.
I guess the best I can say is, it gets better.
Sure, there’s still the occasional awkward tension with Will and Brandon… But I still feel close to both of them, and I’d like to think the same is true in return. I’ve had some rough patches with both, but things are pretty good now. And I’m very grateful for that. Even if they have stolen my kids away from me!
To my friends who are still struggling to figure out what their friendship will be like, now that their relationship has changed… You obviously care about each other very much, or this wouldn’t hurt so much.
Hang in there.