Last weekend Sal and I took a different approach to our usual massage routine at Massage Envy: we got a “couples massage” with the two of us in the same room.
At first I was a little uncomfortable with the idea… I sort of felt like we were being too “in your face” with it, making too much of a public statement. What if one or both of the two massage therapists were uncomfortable with two gay men being so open about being a “couple” in a couples massage?
But then I thought: Fuck that! Would
I tell a straight interracial couple that they shouldn’t do “couple” activities in public, because someone might not approve? Hell no, I’d fight tooth and nail and nearly DEMAND that they stand up for themselves and be a couple like any other.
So why should I expect better for some other couple that might be frowned upon by close-minded people?
In the end, we went ahead and had the couples massage. The therapists were both friendly and charming, and it was a lovely time. Everyone was comfortable, and it was no big deal.
That, really, was the point. If I don’t treat it like no big deal, how on Earth can I expect other people to?