I’m a big fan of Keith Ferrazzi, author of business and networking books like Never Eat Alone and Who’s Got Your Back? He’s got some great insights into how to build great business relationships with people, focusing on how you can help others rather than what they can do for you. Today, though, Keith shared a different kind of relationship advice: a quotation about romantic relationships:
When you love someone you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity, in freedom. — Anne Morrow Lindbergh
As Keith rightly points out, “Relationships are a constant process of both being and becoming. Don’t be afraid of change – or of the need to ‘work’ on your relationship. That’s how relationships survive. Anne Morrow Lindbergh was married to Charles Lindbergh for 45 years, until his death in 1974.”
I was touched by the quote, and by Keith’s observation. I’ll take it a step farther: relationships are like life… Good, bad, crazy, boring, silly, infuriating, heartwarming, painful, but ultimately wonderful and worth the effort.
I’m sure they’re also like a box of chocolates, but I got nothin’ for that analogy this morning.
Or, put another way: you take the good, you take the bad, you take ’em both, and there ya have…