I’ve lived in New York City almost 1/3 of a year now, and in that short time, I’ve already learned quite a bit about the city and about myself.
And about other people.
I’ve already posted about my surprise at just how expensive it is to live in New York City. That trend continues, though things seem to be settling down a little. (Getting past celebrations at our home for housewarming, Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve Eve, and New Year’s Eve has helped level off our grocery bill a bit, thankfully.)
I’ve learned that I enjoy living in a city with reliable and plentiful public transportation, except walking home with a bunch of groceries and the weather is bad. Having a subway to take places, though, is freakin’ awesome. Especially when you have an iPhone for music, news, games, etc. to keep your brain occupied on the train.
And I’ve learned that some close friends will hold you close even after you move away, while others will seemingly drop off the face of the Earth.
It’s a sad discovery, but in the almost four months that I’ve been gone, many of my closest friends from Charlotte have yet to initiate a single conversation with me via telephone, email, or even text message. Some of the people who I spent with most time with in Charlotte have made little-to-no effort to stay in touch with me since the moment the U-Haul crossed the state line.
Fortunately, moving away from a place you’ve called home for several years also helps highlight those friends who will randomly txt you to tell you that they were thinking of you, or that they miss you, or that they wished you were there. Some friends show you that, near or far, you’re an important part of their lives.
And to those friends, I say thank you.
That doesn’t mean that friends who’ve lost touch are bad people. It doesn’t mean that you didn’t have wonderful times together, or that you won’t still have many pleasant times together in the months and years to come. It just means that some people are great company when time and place are convenient… And that’s okay.
I don’t know if New York City is going to be a long-term home for me — who’s to say what will happen with jobs, relationships, and so on. But I do know that moving here has been a great eye-opening experience, in a number of ways. And so, I’m thankful, and looking forward to continuing my tenure as a New Yorker.