Knowing that my marriage proposal late last year included some specific caveats — notably, that I want the Unites States government to recognize the validity of the marriage — we’ve been assuming that the Big Day will be some ways off.
Well, I think we’ve found the date. Sort of.
First, a quick refresher for anyone who doesn’t know the story of how Sal and I met… It was Labor Day weekend in 2007, and I was visiting New York City with several friends. We met Sal that fateful weekend, and the rest is history.
Since then, we’ve celebrated our “anniversary” each year on Labor Day weekend. So naturally, Labor Day weekend is something we look forward to each year. And tentatively, we’re planning to continue that tradition for a lifetime.
Yes folks, we’re eyeing Labor Day weekend for our wedding… But this August is bad for a couple of reasons, so we’re delaying until 2014.
Now, some of you have been horrified at the idea of an almost-two-year engagement. I understand — in a perfect world, I’d love to get married immediately and get on with our life as a married couple. But there are a number of reasons why that’s just not feasible.
First, there’s the simple factor of cost. A wedding is going to be crazy expensive, and we need more time to figure out how the hell we’re going to pay for it. Even with some creative ideas about how we can emphasize the aspects that are important to us and save money by eliminating the things that aren’t, there’s no doubt that this will cost us at least a few thousands of dollars… Money that we just don’t have.
Compounding this, we have a few weddings to go to in 2012 that will require out of state travel. That’s going to set us back pretty badly, compounding the problem of paying for our own wedding. (Another couple is also getting married in NYC in October of this year, and while that won’t require expensive travel, there’s something to be said for not having overlapping weddings.)
And of course, ours aren’t the only finances to think about. Both Sal and I have a lot of friends and family outside the New York area, and we want to be sure to give them plenty of notice so they can work on their own travel arrangements.
Money aside, we’ve got to find the right venue for the big day. Finding a place that will meet our needs, while being affordable and available when we want it, may take some time. We’re starting to explore now, but this likely won’t be a quick process.
All of this, combined with my desire for the wedding to be legally recognized by the federal government (which might happen by Supreme Court mandate this year, or if not, perhaps by legislative means next year), gives us a strong desire to put a little time between now and the wedding… And if we’re going to keep the concept of a Labor Day Weekend event, that means delaying until 2014.
Besides, if we do manage to work things out for Sunday, August 31, 2014 it will be exactly seven years since the day that we met. And just think of all of the “broken mirror” jokes I’m setting you all up for?